From Software to Softplay

Stepping out of the corporate world and becoming one of two adoptive dads

A first time for everything and I mean everything!

Five months in and we have been so busy building a family, developing trust and focusing on helping our boys develop a sense of permanency and unconditional love that it dawned on me that we have not really sat back... Continue Reading →

The family tree is growing and the roots are strengthening

With lots of first shoots appearing and blossom budding the family tree is starting to really build a solid foundation. We are now out of this bubble when it was only really meant to be us and the boys so as... Continue Reading →

Two months in and the future is bright but at the same time the past is right there in your face

Learning to listen, empathise, be curious and to build trust has never been so important. Since the last post the building of our family has continued.  Yes we have had bad days, yes we have had instances of regression and... Continue Reading →

Not until I felt your sunshine, Did I realize that I had been in the shade.

"Not until I felt your sunshine, Did I realize that I had been in the shade. Not until I saw all your colors, Did I realize that mine had faded. Not until I heard your dreams, Did I realize that... Continue Reading →

The greatest gift you’ll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return

Sounds easy doesn't it? Now we are three weeks into placement, and this being the first time I have grabbed 30 minutes to write, I am sharing the progress so far and the massive roller coaster ride we have been... Continue Reading →

Welcome to your new forever home

The rollercoaster has picked up speed and it is now already one week since the boys first came to stay at our house.  This is just a quick update for those of you who have been asking as well as... Continue Reading →

It feels a bit awkward but it’s also blossoming

We have completed day two of introductions and we couldn't be happier.  Yes it feels strange after all this time to meet the boys.  Yes it feels strange to be in someone else's house, where they have established routines, rules... Continue Reading →

Twas the night before the big day…

"When all through the house, not a creature was stirring, not even a mouse. The rooms all prepared with love and with care, in hopes and wishes that the boys will soon be there. The children were nestled all snug in... Continue Reading →

The importance of support – don’t underestimate it

As we are flying through the last few days before introductions start  next week, already the importance of our support network is being realised even more than ever. Since starting this process we have been fortunate enough to meet some... Continue Reading →

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